Some people put success at the very center of their lives until their last breath. Success and boasting about it are like their sacred temples. They worship success, they pray with pride. They are ambitious and can disregard many things on the way to success. If they fail and cannot find something to boast about in front of people, even their family, this will be a great destruction for them. To them, boasting about themselves is like the lifeblood.
I know a woman and a man. They loved their children very much. They lived in a house where the most delicious food in the world was cooked and the most real love was experienced, and most importantly, in a house where there was no competition, only peace. They had no ambition and no time for competition. They were at peace because they had nothing to prove to anyone. They were both the most devoted parents I have ever seen.
A man I knew once said about this woman, with a bit of a reproach and a bit of a grimace, "What kind of a woman is this that she is sick but doesn't tell her child, and doesn't let her know for so long? It's unbelievable!" Because that man would never know what love and sacrifice meant. He would never make a real sacrifice for his children, he would only live for himself.
Children of narcissistic parents have always been on edge throughout their lives and have always felt like they were drowning. If a father does not want his son to be richer, more successful and have a better life than him, then there is a problem here. I must be the only one whose success is talked about in the family! If this is not narcissism, what is it? Of course, this is another dimension of the issue.
Success may come once in your life or eleven times. You accept it and move on with your life. This is how normal people do it. They do not focus on success by being very ambitious and disregarding their families. They do not feed on the chaos that ambition brings. Peace is more important than success. In recent years, I think the whole world has understood this better.
Get rid of narcissistic, toxic family members and mentally ill people around you. You may not be able to do this all at once but start taking steps for your peace of mind. Don't let anyone use you just to brag. Don't let anyone see you as worth less than their success. Moreover, if your family is the one doing this, get out of their lives. Otherwise, you will remain in a corner like a worthless object in their eyes until they take their last breath. And no matter what you do, they will never understand your sincerity.
We need to accept that we come across such people every now and then as life goes on. Come across them, but do not continue on your path with them. Do not open your heart to them, and do not waste your breath because they will never understand. Because they are narcissistic and restless.
We are going through a period where time flies quickly. Use this time wisely. Turn towards the good and the right and encourage them. Do not force those around you to do anything, everyone has their own mind. Everyone knows right and wrong very well.
Improve yourself, but do not fall into the trap of ambition. Read a lot. Question a lot. Whatever you do, your real goal should be to find peace in the end. Because peace is more precious than success.
